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Book Club: The Hot Mom to Be Handbook - Two

The Hot Mom to be Handbook 
by Jessica Denay



CHAPTER TWO


The more I read this book, the more I love it!
So far this book has covered the most important concerns about pregnancy for the modern day mom: HER RIGHTS.


In chapter two Jessica Denay writes some great tips on how to keep your mind at peace. 

"Your child's awareness of her or his environment begins in the womb. That's right, even in your uterus your baby is picking up everything that is happening in your world.... Just as your body and mind work together you and your unborn baby are functioning as a unit." - page 58  

It's cute how she later compares the pregnant woman's body as a Mother Ship. On page 59 she writes:

"From the moment of conception until your nine months are up, your body is exposed to your database and interpretations of the world---and during this time your baby's brain is forming, memory is beginning to be structed, and emotional patterns are started. That means your thoughts, emotions, and feelings translate into molecules, mainly hormones, which flow into the body of your fetus. Life learning begins BEFORE birth...."









This seriously makes me rethink about the times I've been so stressed out over silly things. It seriously isn't worth it. This semester at college and work, I've been through hell and back. I don't even want to go there. It has just been a nightmare. I have been treated TERRIBLY by many people in my workplace and college the sad part is that those people were my superiors at work and staff at school. It's so easy to get discriminated for being pregnant. People don't understand that when you're pregnant you go through a lot mentally, physically and emotionally. 

When those people stress you out, no matter how hard you try some people are just evil selfish jerks. That stress doesn't only affect you, it also affects your baby. To me it's a form of child abuse! Yes! It is CHILD ABUSE!
The baby is not born yet but that doesn't mean that just because you can not see the baby does not mean that you are not hurting his/her feelings.

This is definitely true not only because it's my insight after reading those two pages but because from my personal experience whenever someone stressed me out, I would feel a lot pain. The pain would spread out from my back to my chest to my belly to lower parts of my body. At the same time I would experience a very terrible anxiety attack. If that is how I felt I could not imagine how my baby felt.

This seriously frightens me!
I think that people need to respect pregnant women more not because they are pregnant but because there is a little being inside of her that is experiencing everything she is.



Anyway, aside from that horror, on the bright side Jessica Denay comforts me. She writes how we need to adapt a sense of humor to EVERYTHING life gives us. It is so difficult to be strong but she gives some great tips on how to calm yourself when others are being selfish aggressors, as I find it to appropriately refer to them. She says that we need to drink plenty of water to hydrate our bodies, mind & baby. I am very fond of yoga and plan to make some YouTube videos this upcoming week on my prenatal yoga moves that I've learned. Jessica praises yoga and suggests to meditate peacefully when someone is attacking you with stress. 


Then she discusses that we need to stop smoking, drinking alcohol and cut down on caffeine or eliminate it completely. Towards the end of the chapter, like every chapter, she has a list & I just wanted to share this with you before you start to freak out like I did:




That's all for tonight, next week I will write about chapter three & my thoughts on it. Thank you for joining me on this post. Please borrow the book from your local library or purchase it at your local discount bookstore it's originally $16.99 but I've seen it for half that price at a bookstore in my neighborhood. They also have it available in eBook form on Amazon's Kindle & Barnes & Noble's NookBook.

Also my Oprah obsessed neighbor told me that this book was featured in Oprah's "Books Mom's Will Love" Another reason to join me next week for a book review. If you've already borrowed or purchased the book or have any questions - please feel free to comment below. Also don't forget to Subscribe to My Blog!   



x o x o
Amela Sandra 



Book Club: The Hot Mom to Be Handbook - One



The Hot Mom to be Handbook 
by Jessica Denay

CHAPTER ONE

This chapter starts out with Jessica discussing the first time you discover you're going to be a mom.
It reminds me of the first time I discovered I was a mommy to be.
I had to ask my OB/GYN if she was joking.... Quiet honestly I felt like it was all a prank and that my mom and husband would come into the room and cheerfully shout "YOU'VE BEEN PUNK'D"
But that didn't happen. . .  No.

I remember my mom waiting for me in the reception room...
I had a big smile on my face but my entire world came flashing right before my eyes.
My mom had looked at me in a way I have never seen her before, it was the first time in my life that she had expressed the emotion of uncertainty....
My Mom: So..........
Me: I'm pregnant.
My Mom: Oh My God!
Me: I don't know how to feel right now.
My Mom: Just know that whatever your decision is, I am here for you.


WORK & SCHOOL
I had no idea what or how to feel. I was excited, my heart was ponding out of my chest.
I was involved with too many activities, I was taking too many classes, I had a full-time job with a strict schedule & no off days allowed. 

Everyone around me from the faculty at my school to my co-workers and managers kept telling me to quit. Which I have actually found out is illegal to do. There are many laws that protect women from this. Jessica begins to discusses this on page 36 "Preggo 9 to 5"

She gives solid advice on when to tell your boss you are pregnant and how.
Here are some good ones don't "Tell Everyone else in the office first and then tell your boss"
Don't "Complain about your morning sickness and sore back and toss in how tired you are"


FAMLA
Later on page 38 she has two titles Maternity Leave & The Law
I'm not going to give away every detail from the chapter because I highly recommend you borrow this book from your local library or purchase it at your local discount bookstore or ebook.
I don't like ruining books or movies for people. However the important topic I want to highlight that she discusses under The Law is the FMLA (Family & Medical Leave Act) she writes that the law varies from state to state so I've done some research and here is the link to the Department of Labor: Federal vs. State Family and Medical Leave Laws  & then you have this wonderful website from the 

National Women's Law Center:




On pages 39 to 40 Jessica discusses the roles of Father's & Paternity Leave, so what does that mean for your father of your child? Here's a great article about Paternity leave from one of my favorite websites the Baby Center: Paternity Leave: What Are the Options? On page 40 she also discusses "short-term" disability insurance. Once again, The Baby Center has information on that Maternity Leave: The Basics that's why it's my favorite website for baby stuff. 

FYI: Jessica also has a mommy club which you can join via her website: Jessica Denay

Back to the book, in The Hot Mom-to-be Handbook, in chapter one you can also find information on:

  • How to Talk to Your Child about your pregnancy
  • Finding an OB/GYN who respects you and makes you feel comfortable
  • "Fact: Only 5 out of 100 moms actually give birth on their due date"
  • Bump on a Budget
  • Information on being pregnant with Twins 
  • Having a Baby Journal



I've purchased a baby journal at a local discount bookstore called Strand Books 
& I absolutely love it! I think it's adorable & it's definitely going to be a keep sake for my baby to cherish when he grows old enough to understand as a mature young man.

The journal is colorful, the illustrations are beautiful, it really helps us understand what size our baby is at the moment. Whenever we're in the kitchen together we say "Look! The baby is the size of an apple this week!" It's really fun!

The book also feature really cool questions in case you have no idea what to write.
There are also blank pages in each chapter if you decide to write a note to your baby.
It's just a beautiful personal book and it's been so great writing in it. 
The author Geralyn Broder Murray is such a sweet heart. We follow each other on twitter.
She writes the most adorable tweets. I am so grateful that she made this book, it's been real.


Check it Out :












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Amela Sandra