Tuesday

My Healthy Self

My Daily Healthy Habits:

  • Eat Healthy, Non Processed Food - in other words learn how to cook healthy food or if you really hate cooking find a very healthy restaurant & I'm not talking about a healthy hamburger place to replace your "eat hamburgers for dinner every day diet" I'm talking about eat 50% Vegetables, 20 to 30% Fruit & the rest should be fish, meat or poultry (if you're a vegan there are supplements at your local health store that have what you're missing when you don't eat meat, poultry or fish) make sure you buy NON-GMO Organic Food, don't eat too many fats, or oils, continue reading my blog posts on healthy vs unhealthy groceries for inspiration
  • ALWAYS HYDRATE - All of our vital organs (brain, heart, bladder, liver, etc...) rely on water to function how they are supposed to, stop drinking crap and drink water also those "flavored waters" or "water flavorers" that's all crap, if you don't like water then it's probably the brand of water you are drinking, there are plenty of water brands and they don't all taste the same unless your taste buds are dead, otherwise, they really don't all taste the same  - my favorite water brands are: Volvic, Jana and Icelandic - normally I drink 3 liters of water a day but now that I'm pregnant I drink twice as much  
  • Exercise - You don't need to be all fancy to exercise: do some basic yoga, there are usually many free yoga places, also you can borrow a DVD from your local library, use the stairs whenever possible, walk instead of driving or taking the bus/train, etc....
  • Daily Supplements  - Before I was pregnant I was taking vitamins essential for women's health from the SOLGAR brand, Solgar vitamins are all vegan & made from plants and vegetables - right now I'm taking prenatal vitamins and since I'm low on iron I'm also taking iron
  • S L E E P - Sleeping relaxes my mind and body - whenever I feel sick, stressed out, tired, etc... I go to sleep & when I wake up, I feel refreshed! This is also a good replacement for those of you who want to meditate but can't, go to sleep. It's almost the same thing to some extent. Tip: Don't over do it with sleeping, you also need to go out for some fresh air and sunlight.
  • Be Happy - Do things that cheer you up, talk to friends and family members that make you laugh or smile,  play with your dog, go buy yourself some dessert or flowers, go to a concert, go for a walk, read your favorite book at the park/library/bookstore/coffee shop, go window shopping, get your nails done, do something you've always wanted to do, etc.... 
  • Shower & Moisturize Routine - After I shower, I always apply moisturizer on throughout my body: my arms, elbows, entire chest, (now that I'm pregnant I use coconut oil from the body shop to moisturizer my nipples, not moisturizing them can sometimes cause they to get dry and crack which leads to infections) 
  • Have Sex - this is personal but the truth is, sex is VERY healthy, it's healthy for your heart and overall health, it also helps relieve stress; so the next time you and your husband are feeling stressed out, go to your bedroom, light up some candles, play some sexy or romantic music and make some amazing love (it isn't healthy if one of you has some sort of bacterial infection or disease on your genitals, that should be taken care of via primary care doctor or holistic primary care doctor)
  • Listen to Music - whenever I can't sleep or do yoga, I go for a quick walk whether it's around my college campus or around the block in my neighborhood with my dog, I always listen to my "PEACE, LOVE & HAPPINESS" play list which of course has exactly that type of music: music that is cheerful and usually about lovely things, peaceful things and happiness (I find it strange that some songs are called "My Happiness" and they are the most depressing songs ever, that's what I consider a 'happy song')


Thanks for Reading!
I hope I've inspired you with my healthy lifestyle! 
x o x o
Amela Sandra

My Weekend in HELL.


I would share my horror story with you but I don't feel like reminding myself of the experience at the moment. So I'll keep it brief and to the point: over the weekend I had possibly eaten something terrible, according to the doctors at the hospital. According to my OB/GYN I had suffered severe pain throughout my abdomen. I was given a prescription that had contained 5% alcohol. The nurses drew blood from me a three times, 21 blood sample bottles each time. Note if you are new to my blog or instagram: I was diagnosed with anemia during my pregnancy which is actually very normal and very common. It is also very treatable when eating a healthy iron and truly natural  sea salt rich diet. 


Honestly I had severe gas pain, I had more gas than usual and I had tried to burp it all out but the pain kept getting stronger. When I had arrived to the hospital I wasn't attended to in the emergency room until the people around me couldn't stand hearing me cry. YES. That is how bad it was. I was sitting at the end of my seat in squat position with my head down and practicing some slow breathing because the pain was so severe that it was making it very difficult for me to breath. 


The woman from the ER gave me a form to fill out, one of the nurses had already filled out a form but this woman wanted me to fill out another form. At the time I was in so much pain that I handed the form over to my mother. My mother filled out the form and answered every question. When she gave me the form to sign, although it said that she could sign it if I was too sick to sign it myself. I had reviewed the form and it was actually more a survey when I had told my mom not to give her that paper because it was not necessary and also ILLEGAL - the woman had circled questions like: 
What is your religion? What is your this and that.....?
Why the hell does she need to know my religion? 
I understand that there are some things in certain religions that are forbidden and what not but that should be a private question and it should only be asked by someone that the patient feels comfortable with to answer.


Anyway I was later admitted, I was stressed out because the woman from the emergency room said that the survey was mandatory. My mother was upset with me because she thought it was nothing but to me it was everything because discrimination goes a very long way despite code of ethics and usually no one ever suspects anything. Eventually I went into "triage" which is similar to the emergency room, they assign you to where you need to be for example: the dentist, burn specialist, delivery room, etc.... This was in the Labor & Delivery section of the hospital. The nurse was very friendly in terms of attitude but she was very aggressive with her actions. For example, she had stabbed and wounded my arms. Later a female OB/GYN had stabbed me multiple times to reach my artery, I have bruises to prove it. When I had told her that I didn't want to be "numbed" or didn't want certain things done to me because I was afraid for the baby she simply refused my requests.
Then I had asked if my mother could please be in the room with me and the nurse had asked the doctor while they were holding me down and poking the crap out of me with needles which was done on Saturday night and I still feel pain and have bruises from that night because although I did not move they felt that it would be a good idea to NUMB me with God knows what.
They also felt it was necessary to hold me down.
And they had performed things like checking my artery? For no reason.
The worst part was when the nurses and doctors kept telling me that 
"We would never do anything to harm your baby."
and
"We would never do what anything you don't feel comfortable doing."

LIES.
LIES.
LIES.
LIES.

"Family isn't allowed during the manipulation process." - what my Doctor told my nurse when I had asked my nurse if my mother can be in the room with me.

I was given something to "NUMB" me.
I overheard a nurse tell the other "We need to torture her with another large needle."
& of course they were talking about me because hey! guess who got pricked again and more blood was withdrawn. Me: Why are you withdrawing so much blood even though you know I'm anemic?" Nurse: Oh don't worry the doctor said it's fine and don't worry you won't lose that much blood. Me: This is very unhealthy for my baby! I am anemic I don't even have blood for myself and the baby and this is the third time you are taking blood samples from me within less than 24 hours. Who are these doctors that the other 14 samples didn't work that now they need another set of seven samples? Nurse: Doctor's orders. Me: Can I please speak with the Doctor. Nurse: That's not necessary. But I will get him anyway. The doctor said that he needed more samples because the other samples were too old. 

ARE 
YOU
SERIOUS ?

Also when they had performed the EKG they did not know what they were doing, I know this because on Sunday a doctor had told another doctor that the results were a mistake and that they needed to redo the EKG to double check. Later an internist saw me and after seven hours he had decided that it would be best for me to go down to the cardiovascular department of the hospital. I was prescribed a "prescription" for dehydration from vomiting, half of the prescription had alcohol.
I looked at six nurses and a residential doctor in disbelief 
"What is this a tequila shot or medicine? This liquid medicine is half alcohol. Are you trying to get my baby drunk?"
Anyway I wasn't contracting but for some reason I had a total of four different doctors insert their fingers aggressively into my vagina to check if I was in labor. Which honestly, there is no excuse for & no I'm not exaggerating or being too sensitive, it really freaking hurt! I had been to five different GYN's and two different emergency rooms in the OB/GYN. I also have two OB/GYN's - they're partners and frankly after this experience I don't trust them anymore. I can't wait to hear what she has to say about the entire situation. The hospital kept telling me that they don't want to let me go home because the results from my EKG were too high. OF COURSE THEY WERE!

1) I WAS ALREADY IN SEVERE PAIN 
2) I WAS BEING HELD DOWN & DRUGGED FOR NO REASON
3) THEY JUST KEPT TAKING BLOOD FROM ME, BLOOD THAT I AM SHORT OF
4) THEY WERE MANIPULATING ME! TELLING ME: oh we wouldn't hurt you or the baby & we wouldn't do anything you wouldn't feel comfortable with
ARE. YOU. SERIOUS!?
OF COURSE MY HEART RATE WILL GO UP!

I'm already sick & in physical pain! Then you're causing me emotional, mental & MORE physical distress!? & on top of that internal distress !? That is just PIG POOP!

Finally I had enough of being asked the same damn questions by six different doctors in the cardiovascular department. I was also beginning to feel miserable because all of the doctors and nurses kept telling me that my results were normal and healthy. So I had everything removed by the nurse, walked over to the desk and said "I need to sign a release form." 

It took me an entire hour and I was beginning to feel light headed which is normal because I JUST LOST SO MUCH OF MY BLOOD! & I was severely dehydrated despite the saline fluid. 
We need to page this doctor and that doctor and blah blah blah. No one came.
So we finally had a doctor come down to sign the release form but she refused to.
She kept calling my OB/GYN to make her convince me that I should stay there.

Excuse me. I am not a science experiment.
I'm not a doctor but all of my results came back healthy. I was released from the hospital before then suddenly readmitted again & MOST OF ALL!

TRAIN YOUR GOD DAMN DOCTORS & NURSES TO TREAT THEIR PATIENTS RIGHT & TO STOP MALPRACTICE.

I can not stress enough that EVERYONE HAS TO READ THE BOOK: THE CHINA STUDY.
HALF A MILLION AMERICANS DIE FROM MEDICAL MALPRACTICE.
HELL. NO. NOT ME!

Now I have been to many hospitals before, whether it was to visit family or for myself.
Quiet honestly, I am very disturbed by hospitals in New York City & our country in general.


New York City has the most unethical health care system I have ever experienced in my life!

The hospital should be called the HELL-spital. 





Friday

Healthy Kitchen


Whenever my friends come to my home, they get very comfortable. However, I have never realized how secretive I was about my spice cabinets until I kept being asked if I need help in the kitchen. 

It's not that I am greedy about sharing my secret ingredients, rather it is just something that I simply don't want to share. It is my secret. It is very special to me. I feel like it's a surprise that you will never truly find out. It doesn't make me a greedy or bad person, it just makes me private. I know that my blog can get very personal but there are many things that I choose not to share with others. That's okay. People don't need to know EVERY SINGLE THING about my life or in this case, in my kitchen.



What I will share with you however is very important, this is from educating myself on American food and labels. Naturally as a European I know what is healthy and what isn't or how much of what is healthy, etc...  Especially since my family originates from the country-side and people from the country-side, at least in Europe know a lot about agriculture from trial and error and their neighbor's neighbor's neighbor's trail and errors as well as great great great great great great great grand mother, great x100 aunts, etc....




So here are my suggestions for HEALTHIER alternatives to whatever you think is healthy right now:


COOKING OIL:

Vegetable Oil is NOT HEALTHY.
Olive Oil is HEALTHY.
(also it's cheaper to buy a giant container of Natural Olive Oil as you can use it not only when you're cooking but also in your salad)

Canola Oil is NOT HEALTHY.
Sunflower Oil is HEALTHY.


BAKING:

BUTTER IS HEALTHY.
Just make sure to buy truly organic butter.




TO BE CONTINUED. . . .

Maternity Chic: Out of The Day


By popular request, here are the details:


Yes! That is Fluffy Leo my pomerian-finnish spitzer hybrid pup.
My Outfit:

Top: INC. International Concepts 
Store: Macy's 
Price: $10


LeggingsLoft by Ann Taylor 
Store: LOFT 
Price: $18


Cardigan: Banana Republic  
Store: Banana Republic 
Price: $30

Boots: Hunter Boots 
Store: Lord & Taylor
Price: $105



Handbag is my Vegan Leather Handbag & the Necklace is handmade both will be coming soon on my etsy store or possibly my very own online store. You'll be updated shortly as I'm still trying to figure that out. The scarf is from H&M it was about $12. I absolutely love scarves from H&M they are so inexpensive, great quality and a classy classique.


Anyway I hope you've enjoyed this blog post. More outfits will be listed as the warmer weather persists here in New York City.
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x o x o
Amela Sandra

Book Club: The Hot Mom to Be Handbook - Two

The Hot Mom to be Handbook 
by Jessica Denay



CHAPTER TWO


The more I read this book, the more I love it!
So far this book has covered the most important concerns about pregnancy for the modern day mom: HER RIGHTS.


In chapter two Jessica Denay writes some great tips on how to keep your mind at peace. 

"Your child's awareness of her or his environment begins in the womb. That's right, even in your uterus your baby is picking up everything that is happening in your world.... Just as your body and mind work together you and your unborn baby are functioning as a unit." - page 58  

It's cute how she later compares the pregnant woman's body as a Mother Ship. On page 59 she writes:

"From the moment of conception until your nine months are up, your body is exposed to your database and interpretations of the world---and during this time your baby's brain is forming, memory is beginning to be structed, and emotional patterns are started. That means your thoughts, emotions, and feelings translate into molecules, mainly hormones, which flow into the body of your fetus. Life learning begins BEFORE birth...."









This seriously makes me rethink about the times I've been so stressed out over silly things. It seriously isn't worth it. This semester at college and work, I've been through hell and back. I don't even want to go there. It has just been a nightmare. I have been treated TERRIBLY by many people in my workplace and college the sad part is that those people were my superiors at work and staff at school. It's so easy to get discriminated for being pregnant. People don't understand that when you're pregnant you go through a lot mentally, physically and emotionally. 

When those people stress you out, no matter how hard you try some people are just evil selfish jerks. That stress doesn't only affect you, it also affects your baby. To me it's a form of child abuse! Yes! It is CHILD ABUSE!
The baby is not born yet but that doesn't mean that just because you can not see the baby does not mean that you are not hurting his/her feelings.

This is definitely true not only because it's my insight after reading those two pages but because from my personal experience whenever someone stressed me out, I would feel a lot pain. The pain would spread out from my back to my chest to my belly to lower parts of my body. At the same time I would experience a very terrible anxiety attack. If that is how I felt I could not imagine how my baby felt.

This seriously frightens me!
I think that people need to respect pregnant women more not because they are pregnant but because there is a little being inside of her that is experiencing everything she is.



Anyway, aside from that horror, on the bright side Jessica Denay comforts me. She writes how we need to adapt a sense of humor to EVERYTHING life gives us. It is so difficult to be strong but she gives some great tips on how to calm yourself when others are being selfish aggressors, as I find it to appropriately refer to them. She says that we need to drink plenty of water to hydrate our bodies, mind & baby. I am very fond of yoga and plan to make some YouTube videos this upcoming week on my prenatal yoga moves that I've learned. Jessica praises yoga and suggests to meditate peacefully when someone is attacking you with stress. 


Then she discusses that we need to stop smoking, drinking alcohol and cut down on caffeine or eliminate it completely. Towards the end of the chapter, like every chapter, she has a list & I just wanted to share this with you before you start to freak out like I did:




That's all for tonight, next week I will write about chapter three & my thoughts on it. Thank you for joining me on this post. Please borrow the book from your local library or purchase it at your local discount bookstore it's originally $16.99 but I've seen it for half that price at a bookstore in my neighborhood. They also have it available in eBook form on Amazon's Kindle & Barnes & Noble's NookBook.

Also my Oprah obsessed neighbor told me that this book was featured in Oprah's "Books Mom's Will Love" Another reason to join me next week for a book review. If you've already borrowed or purchased the book or have any questions - please feel free to comment below. Also don't forget to Subscribe to My Blog!   



x o x o
Amela Sandra 



Maternity Chic

Because I love Myself

My Maternity Style
My style is based on my mood but my taste always remains the same.
I love anything that catches my eye & usually it's feminine, sexy, glamorous, comfortable, & a classique. When I dress up I choose things that make me say "this is very interesting" & then I pair it up with something else that is compatible. I always keep in mind that my style like everyone else's is a work of art. 


My Fashion Advice to You
What you wear expresses not only your mood but you as an individual. It's very good to keep this advice in mind before you leave your home dressed a certain way. When you don't take care of yourself and dress nicely you are showing people that you don't really love yourself.

I understand that you may be going through a difficult time such as pregnancy or maybe you don't like your hips, breasts, etc... But all of that can be taken care of by buying clothes that compliment YOUR body. Also don't ever exceed your budget unless you have saved up some money to go on a shopping spree per se or unless you've saved money to buy that $160 dress. Otherwise, Chic & Cheap is very doable.



The Four C's
Now that I'm pregnant My Fashion Motto are the 4 C's: 
Cheap, Chic, Classy, & Comfy 
(Comfy = comfortable)
I aware that I won't be pregnant for long so when I shop I definitely look for sales and discounts. Everyone wants to know my big secret to shopping for less & looking super expensive. And actually I can not reveal my secret in just one blog post. You will need to read my blog to truly understand the purpose of being a Frugal Fashionista.
You don't become a frugal fashionista over night. It is something that you are trained to become. 

It may sound silly but I've bought entire* outfits that cost me $40 and they were all boutique brand names. 


Here's a great example of one of my favorite outfits, although this outfit is much more than $40 I absolutely love to share it with you because I think it's such a great artsy & feminine, maternity chic style with new merchandise. 



Details About This Outfit:
Dress: MANGO $40
Tights: Charlotte Russe $3.50
Vegan Handbag: $50
Scarf: H&M $5
Suede Platform Boots: Steve Madden $99

Yes. This Outfit was way over $40 but let's review this outfit with it's original prices:

Original Price:
Dress: $40
Tights: $7.50
Vegan Handbag: $130
Scarf: $12.90
Steven Madden Suede Platform Boots: $200


VIOLA ! 
See the difference.
I've saved: $192.90 & some change
Huge difference, yeah?


I wore this outfit on a lovely lunch date with my husband. I strongly believe that when you dress nicely, no matter how horribly you feel,  it tends to cheer you up! It really does!

Also, people treat you much more differently depending on how you dress. 
So if you don't feel good or just don't think you can afford to look good you are foolish. 

You need to go to your closet & look at everything that you love, like, hate & aren't sure about. I will write more about Moving to Your New HomeSpring Cleaning & Shopping Your Closet this upcoming week.

This Morning's blog post will be on: How To Eat Healthier by Replacing Simple Items in Your Kitchen.


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x o x o
Amela Sandra

Thursday

Our New Home



I am so excited that we will be moving in April ! 

At the moment we've got our contractor & I'm working side by side with him to create a beautiful home for my family & I! My mom, Eduardo, Fluffy & I are very excited & we think the baby will love it there too. Here are some photos of our new home, we're still in Queens, we can't leave Queens it's too diverse here, we are so used to living in the most diverse county in the entire world where you can find any culture, language, religion and people of every country you've heard of or never heard of.
Here are pictures of the current state the apartment is in:



These tiles are very cute and they were purchased sometime in the mid 1960s or late 1970s but they are fake, it's actually just a type of plastic rug.  When we found out what the actual floor looks like, I was shocked. The wood has decayed completely but thank God we have a trusted contractor. He's a bit pricey but his expertise & professionalism is definitely worth every hard earned penny to make my home, a dream home!



This kitchen is ridiculously small and outdated, as you can see behind my mom the floor is decayed. We've removed the plastic fake tiles and it all just cracked on it's own.
But on the bright side there are great features to the amenities: private community playground, a private party room, security, cameras, intercoms with cameras, and a full service laundry room. They also allow pets which is just as big of a bonus as the private playground because Fluffy our pomeranian is also a huge part of our family.



This a picture of the livingroom, it's very huge! My husband is standing in the dinning room which is also connected to the main entrance. This space is big enough for many of my ideas. We're very excited! I can't wait to renovate everything, decorate & see the end result! I'm super excited!



Stay Tuned for updates on the renovation!
Thank You!

x o x o 
Amela Sandra

Basic Bathroom Organization

When my husband & I moved into our current apartment, we did not plan to stay here for too long since our neighbors are chronic smokers and unfortunately the smoke from their apartment seeps through all of the little cracks and the cheap sheetrock wall  and into our apartment. Sometimes I would wake up in the middle of the night from the same nightmare: I am trapped in a cigar shop with demons. Not a cool nightmare to have.


Anyway aside from my horrible living condition or rather despite my horrible second hand smoke experience. As you may have noticed I am a very organized but when you live in a home that makes you feel down, all you can think about is "I want to get the hell outta here cause this does not feel like home!"

Unfortunately my organized self could no longer handle the disorganization and I have decided to invest in super cheap and easy to repurpose systems. The first place I started was my bathroom. My bathroom is very important to me because that's where all of my hygiene things are. Also I live with a man, my husband, and he also has HIS hygiene stuff. I also like to bring magazines in the bathroom with me, particularly catalogues from my favorite stores since I don't have any other time to browse through them.

Over all my bathroom had lacked what I consider basic organization & here's what I mean:




Okay, so we've started out right with the $15.99 above the toilet shelving unit from our local T.J. Maxx store. But then we have these catalogues everywhere and my cute basket from the Body Shop which is strictly for dental hygiene it has my hair brush in it and my creams which I've cropped out because it's just embarrassing how disorganized and cluttered my things were. 



Since my husband & I were making our Renovation Inspiration trip to IKEA (next blog post)
I had made a list of things I really need. At the top of the list I wrote: "cheap basket/bin for basic bathroom organization"

And guess what in less than ten minutes in the bins/boxes/baskets area of IKEA I found these super cheap, simple plastic bins for $1.49 each. I've given my husband the shelf for his hygiene stuff & I kept this for myself, since.... I have MUCH more than he does. But I did give him space for his razors, deodorant & face moisturizer. LOL.

Here are the details on the bins:



As you can tell from the left hand side bin #: 

  1. The Facial Bin
    • Anything that goes on the Face:
      • Moisturizers
      • Concealers
      • Face Wash
      • Eye Make-Up
      • Brush cleaner
      • Face Masks
      • etc..
  2. The Body Bin
    • Anything that goes on your overall body
      • Sunscreen
      • Body Oil
      • Razors
      • Body Wash
      • Deodorant
      • etc...
  3. The Hair Bin
    • Anything that goes on my hair, plus two make-up bags that I had some extra space for
      • Hair Moose
      • Hair Spray (It's rare that I use hair spray, it's actually bad for the environment, your hair and your lungs. I've had these bottles for two years now)
      • Hair Brush
      • Hair Mask
      • Shampoo & Conditioners
      • Hair Dye
      • etc....
Other Purposes:
This is just temporary organization, I can later use those bins for something else, like my cleaning supplies, kids toys, sock & undergarment dividers for my husband's upcoming new closet, etc....


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